Not dating for years
You’ve probably heard of couples who’ve been dating for years before marriage, and then it takes only one year of marriage to send them scrambling for divorce, citing “irreconcilable differences” as a reason. Weren’t they aware of those irreconcilable differences before marriage?
So the irreconcilable differences just fail to get mentioned during those thousands hours reciting poetry, breaking out in dance and following the moon together as they chat on the phone. Boy meets girl, falls in love, starts a relationship…Somewhere along the road, the girl notices there’s a trait in the guy she doesn’t like, but she compromises, and compromises and compromises…according to the sunk cost fallacy, she goes ahead with the marriage because she has invested so much of her time, emotions and (in the case of a conservative society that frowns upon dating) maybe even her reputation.
When everything clicks, there is very little doubt in your mind. Be someone who chases their dreams, if you want that characteristic in your mate.Both of them fail to understand there are things in the boy’s behavior that are fundamental and would be difficult to change.And when it comes to the getting rid of baby fat; blame biology for that, not the girl.4.I think it’s important to take time to heal from divorce.People need time to adjust to the major changes that divorce brings: different living situations, moving, financial struggles, and having to share time with your kids. It’s the death of your hopes, dreams, and beliefs that you will spend the rest of your life with your spouse. It’s wise to wait a year or so, so that you can evaluate your life, take inventory of who you are, change the things about you that you don’t like, and discover what exactly you’re looking for in a partner.